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San Jose dating: Silicon Valley singles looking for lasting love

The San Jose dating scene can be a tricky balancing act between professional and personal goals. Indeed, with taxing Bay Area/Santa Clara County commutes, and so many singles working long, Silicon Valley hours, it can be hard to even find the time to meet new people. That's where EliteSingles can help. Our personality-based matchmaking system helps streamline San Jose dating by connecting you with compatible, relationship-minded single men and women. That means less time seeking suitable singles and more time to focus on the fun bit - the dates themselves!
Downtown San Jose at night

San Jose Dating with EliteSingles

Dating in Silicon Valley and San Jose and finding that there aren't enough hours in the day to split between work and romance? Although the single professionals in this city have gotten used to dating = difficulty, it doesn't have to be that way: EliteSingles is here to streamline San Jose dating. It all comes down to our matchmaking process, designed to save you time by connecting you to truly compatible, relationship-ready singles. Just take our personality test, outline your relationship preferences, and we can start bringing you 3-7 match suggestions per day (or you can search using our Have You Met...feature). It's a great way to begin meeting San Jose singles who are on your wavelength - ready to get started?

Dating in Silicon Valley and Meeting San Jose Singles

EliteSingles can help you make the most of San Jose dating by helping you meet interesting, educated singles who suit you (more than 80% of our members are educated to Bachelor's degree level or higher). But that's not the only way we can help make online dating more efficient! Our handy iOS/Android dating app is designed to streamline the process even further. With all the functions of our desktop site, our dating app is perfect for singles with busy lifestyles. Fine-tune your profile while watching TV, or send a new message while on that dreaded Bay Area commute: our app makes it easy to date at a time and place that suit you.

We're here to help you enjoy the dating process, too. Our customer service team manually checks each new profile to help ensure you're surrounded by singles as serious about finding love as you are, while our online magazine is on hand with dating advice and expert relationship tips. We’re here to help you make the most of dating in Silicon Valley, San Jose, and beyond!

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Acing the San Jose Dating Scene

There's a reason so many people flock to San Jose and Santa Clara County. Sure, the weather is a draw card, but there's also the opportunity to find great jobs in a city that has a lot to offer. That combination brings a lot of dynamic singles to the area, meaning it should be easy to meet people in San Jose, right? Unfortunately, if you've outgrown the bar scene and don't want to date at work, it's not always simple to find a meaningful match.

That's why so many interesting single men and women are looking to online dating sites like EliteSingles to help them with finding love. Our members certainly fit the outline above: they're busy, interesting professionals aged 30-55, and they are united by their desire for a long-term, loving relationship. Our focus on compatibility means that there's also a lot of diversity within that description - as long as you're relationship-ready, we can help you meet someone who clicks with you.

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San Jose Date Ideas

Meet someone interesting and want to take it further? You need a killer date idea to really make things memorable. Happily for those dating in San Jose, this city - and the Bay Area - are full of romantic things to do. From decadent date nights to cozy coffee dates, here are our favorite San Jose date ideas.

Want more local dating ideas? Try our Bay Area dating tips with our guide to San Francisco dating, or take a romantic weekend away with our ideas for Los Angeles dating and San Diego dating.

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Daytime San Jose dating

Want a classic date idea? Meet your date for coffee - it's a great, relaxing way to know each other. And in San Jose, there's nowhere better for a coffee date than the lovely Academic Coffee, a welcoming space on S. 2nd Street. Get to know each other over their incredible coconut iced lattes: it's first date heaven!

For a quirky San Jose date idea, book a tour of the famous Winchester Mystery House. The pet project of Sarah Winchester, the wealthy widow of a firearms magnate, construction on this labyrinthine mansion lasted over 30 years (legend has it that she just kept adding rooms to confuse the ghosts of those hurt by her husband's profession). Whether you believe the tall tales or not, this house is one-of-a-kind and will make for an unforgettable date.

Date nights in San Jose

Planning a romantic San Jose date night? For laid-back romance, spend an evening at SP2 Communal Bar & Grill. By themselves, SP2's delicious food (pancetta jalepeño cornbread, anyone?) and amazing craft cocktails make for a great date night - add in their glorious patio and the great becomes extraordinary.

For full-on romance, try Vin Santo in Willow Glen. With its warm interior and flickering candlelight, this Italian restaurant has dreamy ambience in spades. The menu is swoon-worthy too - delicate handmade pastas and gnocchi are accompanied by specialties like burrata salad, Carpaccio, and homemade meatballs. And we haven't even mentioned dessert yet! The wine list is also amazing, making this the kind of date where you want to linger late into the night.

Couple on a date in San Francisco
Making the most of the Bay Area

Making the most of San Jose dating also means making the most of the gorgeous date ideas in the Bay Area. This part of California can be truly beautiful - especially if you get back to nature in the Santa Cruz Mountains. Head to Big Basin Redwoods State Park (California's oldest state park) for a hike, and make sure to check out a tree called Father of the Forest - this 250ft, 2,000 year-old tree is truly jaw-dropping.

Then of course, there's San Francisco. One of the world's most unique cities, it's an incredible date idea to have outside your front door. Don't want to deal with SF traffic and parking? Take Caltrain into the city, then try out our San Francisco Muni Metro Date Map. With a date idea for every major Muni stop, it's the perfect way to find a date idea in your favorite part of SF.