Black and White Dating: A Safe Place To Date Who You Want
It's fair to say that our interracial dating community represents the enlightened majority in American society. A Gallup poll in 2013 found that 96% of black people and 84% of white people approve marriage between blacks and whites. This means that 87% of Americans overall see no problem with black-white marriage, up from a meager 4% in 19581. The outlook for interracial relationships has improved dramatically over the past 50 years, but there's room for even more acceptance.
In the biggest, most liberal cities, stigma is hardly a problem at all. But there are parts of the country - and certainly around the world - where the stigma is still rife and keenly felt by those in an interracial relationship. It pays to be aware of these clashes of culture, not only to head off any potential problems but to celebrate your differences too. Take comfort in the solid foundation of your relationship - face up to any and all stigma together.
Because anyone who's experienced black and white dating will know that the problems interracial couples face are seldom with each other. "It sure is hard when everybody else starts getting involved"2 Bustle reporter Paige Tutt writes in her article on the subject. Family pressure is perhaps the most common type of stigma black & white couples face, followed closely by judgment from their neighbors and religious communities. Of course, having abuse hurled at you by total strangers is still a sad possibility, but thankfully a much rarer one these days.
When you're still single, and your black & white dating story is still at a speculative stage, you're best served by keeping an open-mind. But be wary of those who only see interracial dating as 'exotic', who fetishize being with someone of a different race, or are merely rebelling against their family - they're clearly in it for the wrong reasons3. It's perhaps best not to advertize the fact you're looking for a particular race or ethnicity, since this increases your chances of encountering this wrong set of people. Simply make contact with the people you find attractive - if you're a match, and it's meant to be, that's all you'll need to do!
Black & White Dating Online
One of the challenges of interracial dating is knowing where to find a like-minded match. While there are many sites that offer dating for black singles, not all of the mainstream sites include your ethnicity preferences in their matching algorithm, making interracial dating all the more inaccessible. Meeting interesting black or white singles offline though is even harder. Of course, you could get lucky and meet a friend of a friend who's perfect for you, or stumble across someone in a bar or at the store but are you willing to leave it all to chance?
Meeting on a site like EliteSingles is the easiest way to find potential partners. And while there may be some stigma left surrounding black & white dating, you can at least be sure the intelligent, mature members on our site aren't likely to discriminate based on your race or your ethnicity preferences.
EliteSingles is an inclusive site, where professional singles from all backgrounds can connect with like-minded people in their search for a serious relationship. A safe space, all of our members are genuinely here to find fellow marriage-minded singles, and our customer care team is always on hand if you run into any problems.
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