Do you believe in love at first sight? A recent survey revealed that many Americans do; particularly men! But is the concept romantic or romanticized?
‘How to meet men’ is something every woman has Googled after a spectacular bad date. Sooner or later everyone gets to a point where they realize that they need to get out of their routine to meet some men that don’t already exist in their lives.
This can be tricky though, most singles have a busy work/life balance and most people seem to suggest simply hanging around a bar until a man strikes up a conversation – not the most efficient approach. Here’s the EliteSingles guide on how to meet men offline – eight practical tips.
1. Nudge your pal for single men recommendations
Yes, we know it sounds obvious. But there are plenty of funny, interesting, intelligent women who haven’t been set up by their friends, simply because they haven’t asked. Who better to introduce you to single guys then your good friends, right? They know your style, taste and they’ll pick out your most flattering photo to show any lucky suitors. Meeting single men doesn’t require reinventing the wheel, but it does take some confidence. So message some friends, say ‘Looking to get back into dating, do you have any friends who would be up for a casual drink?’ – simple!
2. How to meet men offline? Just say yes!
This might sound silly, but saying yes to more things in life guarantees you new experiences. As we get older, most people settle into routines and breaking out of them can be hard to do. Routines aren’t bad, most of EliteSingles’ members are 40+ men and women who have a busy working and social life, so routines are key to keeping order. However, this means that you’re shutting yourself off from anything spontaneous or new happening. If we’re basing romance on movies and TV shows, the love of your life is waiting around the corner in an unexpected adventure!
“I’m seeing the new Avengers film tonight, would you like to come” – you might hate superhero films, but why not try something new?
“I’m thinking of going to the new Italian that’s opened up on my lunch break, fancy it?” – you wanted to have a quick lunch, but hey, maybe there’ll be cute businessmen?
Just say yes!
3. Pick up a new hobby, get healthy and meet single men
Sounds too good to be true, but joining a sports club or fitness studio is one of the best ways to meet men offline. Women tend to frequent yoga and step classes when it comes to exercise, so try for a more gender-neutral option. Cycling and running are covered by measurement and social network Strava. If you’re feeling a bit braver, then try out a military fitness boot camp – don’t worry it’s basically circuit training in local parks for all ages and fitnesses.
4. Meet new people in your local area and enjoy some music
Concerts, gigs, whatever you call them, live music is a great way to meet single men offline. Whether you’re into jazz, electronic, classical, rock or pop, there will always be something going on in your local area. The best ways to find out about these is to check out listings online, or find venues on Facebook and see what artists are performing. Smaller, intimate concerts give you a chance to strike up a conversation without it seeming too forward.
5. How to meet men: the most selfless way
Volunteering is something everyone should do once in their life. However, it’s easier said than done when you have a full workload and plenty of other obligations keeping you busy. See if you can find a local place to volunteer, shelters, dogs and cats homes, soup kitchens, charity shops – any of these places could really use your help. So how do you meet men with this selfless act? Well, any men you meet at these places has already inadvertently told you they are a caring and thoughtful person. Volunteering is a great way to make some lifelong friends by giving back and maybe meeting a new beau along the way.
6. Single men + cute animals = a winning combination
Dog parks might be one of the greatest inventions in the world. A simple idea, it’s a place where people take their dogs to socialise while their tired owner gets a breather from lobbing a ball across a field. It’s also a great place on our ‘How to meet men offline’ list to meet caring single guys who have dogs. So, if you have a dog, it’s easy. Strike up a conversation about the dog and gush about how well trained he is. No dog? Simple, strike up a conversation about how you were thinking of getting a dog and ask for some tips.
7. The old proverb. How to meet men offline? Through their stomach
If you’re more of a lady of luxury and don’t fancy joining a sports club, then a wine tasting or a cookery class can achieve the same results. Cookery classes and wine tastings also draw a certain type of man if you’re looking for a James Bond type who can also whip up a mean lasagna. Another great thing about picking up a new hobby is that even if you don’t meet anyone, you’ve gained some new skills and fun anecdotes for your next date!
8. One of the best places to meet men? Niche dating sites
As a niche dating site, we think we’re the experts on this very topic.
Meeting men offline can be impossible when you have a busy life and you’re looking for Mr Right, not Mr Right Now. Broad dating websites tend to cater to every demographic, which is like going into a crowded bar and shouting ‘Who likes long walks on the beach’ and hoping someone super compatible will approach you. EliteSingles is a site for professional, educated singles over 35+ who are looking for serious, long-term relationships and like-minded partners.
Niche dating sites offer you a laser view of who you want to be with, therefore cutting away most of the partners who’d you never date! Interested? Try EliteSingles free today.