Discover the Best Lesbian and Gay Dating Apps of 2021

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Finding the best lesbian or gay dating app can be tricky. In 2021 there are so many different options for every type of relationship and every type of preference. Which is great news for people who like lots of options, but it can be a tad overwhelming when you just want to find a date. We take a look at the best gay and lesbian dating apps and review their features, user base and their chances of success.women who met on gay dating apps

The Best Lesbian Dating Apps of 2021

For a long time, online dating tended to only gear towards straight people, then eventually men seeking men options were featured and finally there came lesbian dating sites. Thankfully, in 2021 there are lots of inclusive lesbian dating apps or apps that cover the entire LGBTQI+ spectrum, that give users the option to find love and their community.

Her – Swiping ‘yes’ or ‘no’ on prospective dates

Her is one of the best first popular lesbian dating apps on the market. It has the ‘swiping’ feature that lets you accept or decline prospective partners, hence it being referred to as the ‘lesbian tinder’. After you’ve swiped ‘yes’, you can send hearts before finally matching. On your profile, you’re allowed to keep it simple or write a detailed bio, but the app encourages you to talk to users rather than just look at profiles.

  • Sign up through Facebook
  • Minimalist design

Hinge – Connect friends of friends through Facebook

Hinge, unlike most dating apps, sets up people through their mutual friends on Facebook. Instead of basing matches through interests or location, it will only match you with friends of friends so you’re never meeting up with someone too far outside your social circle. Hinge also sends you daily ‘batches’ of matches, although this is purely based on your mutual friends and never from your interests or locations.

  • Facebook to match users
  • For serious relationships

Tinder – Location-based matches and casual dating

Tinder is one of the most well-known and popular dating apps. You know the drill, you fill out a bio (funny or serious) and then swipe to see people near you and their info. Tinder has a huge user base, so it’s a good place to start if you’re looking for a lesbian dating app.

  • Location-based matching
  • Easy-to-use dating app

OkCupid – Big dating pool and interest based matches

OkCupid, like Tinder, isn’t a lesbian-specific dating app, but is one that has opened up its sexual preferences filters in the past few years. It has a huge database of users thanks to this and its niche is that it gives users a percentage of how much you have in common with someone based on your answers to a questionnaire. The questionnaire is similar to OkCupid’s main questionnaire on its dating site.

  • Interest-based matching
  • Big user base so more diversity
  • Questionnaire is key to usage

EliteSingles – psychology based matching for educated singles

EliteSingles is a dating app and website for gay, straight and lesbian singles looking for long-lasting relationships but struggle with a busy work-life balance. The EliteSingles app is a great way to date on the go and it employs the same matchmaking function that is available on the website. The in-depth personality test will ensure that you get good quality matches so you don’t have to start half-hearting conversations after swiping for hours. You’ll receive 3-7 matches every day from lesbian singles who match your values, goals and interests.

  • Algorithmic matchmaking based on a personality test
  • 3-7 matches per day from women interested in serious relationships
  • Easy functionality and sign-up
  • More diverse age range, better options for older singles

Interested in EliteSingles? Download our app or sign up to our website and try it for free today.

Want to know more about the dating apps out there? Read our review of the best dating apps in 2021

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The Best Gay Dating Apps of 2021

Gay dating apps have typically had a bit more choice comparatively to lesbian dating apps. Gay chat apps and websites have been a bit ahead of the curve digitally, possibly due to gay dating culture being centred around bars. So, there are plenty of excellent dating apps to find your special someone. Let’s take a look at some of the features of some of the most popular and their pros and cons.

Jack’d – Location-based and POC friendly

Jack’d is a dating app geared towards gay men looking for relaxed dating. There’s proportionally more POC (people of color) on the site. Jack’d doesn’t use a swiping function, instead, you click ‘yes’ or ‘no’ on a checkerboard of profile pictures. It’s known for being inclusive and diverse.

  • Diverse community
  • Location-based

Scruff – Geared towards older gay men

Made famous when it sponsored RuPaul’s Drag Race for a few seasons, Scruff is well known for being the older, alternative to Grindr. While it has a match function based on location, Scruff is also known for being a relaxed dating app.

  • Users tend to be older
  • Location and chat-based

Hornet – ‘Doing Grindr better than Grindr’

Hornet is easy to navigate, with little advertising and more useful articles and videos for users. Hornet also positions itself as more of a community platform for the gay men, giving you the option to see events and stories from other users.

  • Location-based
  • Events and community outings featured
  • Minimalist design

Grindr – Brief encounters and minimal chat functions

Grindr has become very well known over the past few years. It’s one of the most famous and popular dating apps among gay men and it’s a good place to start for gay dating. Users have cited its big user base and its popularity as one of biggest draws, a good place to explore and chat without feeling tied down.

  • Location-based
  • Large membership

EliteSingles – Long-lasting relationships for busy singles

A committed relationship is hard to find, even with an excellent dating app with great features. EliteSingles is one of those great gay dating apps, the difference is our members know what they’re looking for when they sign up, so long-lasting relationships are common. Our members also tend to be highly educated professionals, but with a lack of free time to pursue social activities like dating. Our app is perfect for dating on the go and is one of the few gay dating apps that also caters to older dating; our members tend to be around 30-55 years old.

Interested in EliteSingles? Download our app or sign up to our website and try it for free today.

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