Acing your first couple's vacation: The top dos and don’ts
They say going away with your new partner can make or break your relationship – a daunting prospect for many couples. But it certainly doesn’t need to be intimidating and in fact can be the perfect opportunity to bring you closer together. With the help of our EliteSingles psychologist, Salama Marine, here are some dos and don’ts to ensure your first vacation as a couple is a success.
Couples' vacations can help build and strengthen your relationship as a whole. According to Salama, ‘Vacations are a good opportunity for couples to take stock and reassess their relationship back home. Discussing your everyday life from a distance, particularly while relaxed on vacation, enables a constructive conversation and ultimately assists in building a strong foundation between you.’ Romantic breaks then, are not only a chance for you as a couple to reconnect, but can be used as an opportunity to enhance your relationship when you're back in your everyday lives.
Feeling the pressure? Whether you’re planning a city break, a week on the beach or a cultural excursion, here are some top tips to guarantee a smooth sailing romantic vacation.
1. Do pick a new vacation destination – Find a place that neither of you have visited before that caters to your mutual interests. You don’t want to return to a place that you visited with your friends on a wild weekend away because you’ll constantly be comparing it and feel like you’re showing your partner around. Instead create new memories collectively by discovering the place together.
2. Do plan the vacation together - When going abroad with a new partner you want to ensure that the destination complements both your interests. Inevitably these could be different. This isn’t a problem though! Naturally, couples' vacations involve compromise and actually this will be a good chance for you to know what to expect from the trip, with no nasty surprises (when he reveals he wants to go hiking every day and you’ve only brought flipflops).
3. Do try a new activity together – A couple's vacation is the perfect opportunity for you to try something different – have you ever been intrigued by surfing or water skiing? Now’s your chance to try it! You will both bond over the new venture and it will bring you closer together and provide an exciting joint memory.
4. Do spend some time apart – Spending 24/7 with someone is intense in any situation and it is natural for you both to become irritable with one another. In order to avoid unnecessary arguments, it is healthy to spend some time apart while on vacation, you need to let each other breathe. As Salama suggests, ‘Although vacations are a great chance for the two of you to connect, it is important that you don’t forget to look after yourself. Devote a little time to an activity that you enjoy independently.’ Why not try a solitary morning stroll on the beach or head to the market to do some shopping and then when you next see your partner you’ll feel refreshed and excited to spend time with them again.