Nine things to know about dating for parents (and about dating parents!)

Dating parents who've become a stepfamily

Single Parents’ Day is March 21st, and it’s a wonderful occasion to let the single parents in your life know that you see what a great job they do or, if you’re a single parent yourself, to give yourself a (well-deserved) pat on the back. At EliteSingles we wanted to celebrate by looking at dating for parents: what makes it great, and what you need to know to make it even better.

With that task in mind, we surveyed 580 Americans anonymously: single moms, single dads, and those without kids, to discover nine facts about dating as a parent (or dating a parent) in the US.

Dating and single parents: nine things to know

1. Parents are popular. Really popular

As EliteSingles psychologist Salama Marine notes ”there is a common misconception that finding love as a single parent is more difficult because having children supposedly puts people off”1 and indeed, there can be some hurtful stereotypes about single parents2 – especially those on the dating scene. Happily, we can ignore these silly misconceptions in favour of a simple, happy truth: our most recent member study has revealed that parents are really, really dateable.In fact, 91% of Americans would have no qualms at all about dating someone with kids.

Salama explains ”as this study reveals, the majority of individuals are open to the idea of meeting single parents. They are perceived as independent and more experienced, and subsequently clearer about what they’re seeking in a relationship. This puts them at a certain advantage when looking for love.”

2. Most parents are upfront about their parental status

Given the popularity of parents on the American dating scene, it’s little wonder that the majority choose to be upfront about the fact that they are part of the single parent dating scene (especially when dating online). 58% of single moms and dads would choose to mention the fact that have kids in their online dating profile, with 18% saving the news for the ‘sending messages’ stage and a further 20% for the first date. (That said, 1% of American parents would hold off on mentioning the kids until they were in a committed relationship!)

3. The younger the child, the more their opinion counts

Dating a single mom or dad with younger children? You may want to brush up on your story-time skills and cartoon character knowledge to win favour: 72% of single parents with kids under 13 would only date someone their child expressly approved of.

However, if you’re dating someone with older or adult children, the pressure to impress is off – in fact, 54% of single parents with kids over 18 agree with the statement ”it’s none of my children’s business who I date.”

4. But don’t feel you have to please everyone right from the start

Whether you’re dating as a parent or dating a parent (or both), remember this: impressing the kids is good but you are also entitled to give your adult relationships room to grow. The survey emphasizes this, with 78% of Americans preferring to wait until they’re in a serious relationship before introducing a new partner to their kids.

5. Dating for parents means expanding your family….

However, once you do meet your new partner’s children (and/or they meet yours), it’s a good idea to try and get on. 92% of parents dating in the US say that doing family activities with their kids, their partner, and their partner’s children is one of the keys to building a strong relationship.

And, while this preference for togetherness is strongest for those with little children (95% of those with kids under 5 want to have family-bonding dates), even those with adult children want in: 92% of singles with grown-up kids would like to do activities as one big family.

6. …but not always biologically

There is one main area where those with grown-up children and those with younger kids differ, and that’s in their desire to have more children with their new partner. 76% of singles with children under 5 would like more kids in their new relationship. For those with elementary-school-aged kids (under 13) that drops to 41%, and for those with high-schoolers (under 18), it drops again to 29%. Meanwhile, just 10% of those with adult children would be prepared have more kids.

7. Having your kids involved can be a ticket to online love

Americans also think that showing off their children is the perfect way to give an online dating profile a boost, with 37% wanting to include a picture of them with their children somewhere in their bio. There’s some evidence that this tactic might work – 29% of singles say that they’re even more inclined to go on a date with someone who has a photo with their kids in their profile.

8. Women want their children’s advice before a first date

Having (adult) children on the scene can also be useful in deciding who to date in the first place. 45% of single moms dating, and with kids over 18 say that they show their children a potential partner’s online profile before deciding to message them.

21% of single dads would get their child’s help with writing a dating profile.

9. And kids can play cupid offline too

So can being a parent influence your love life? The answer is yes – in a good way! As well as the examples above, the presence of kids can bring single parents and those dating them together in an unexpected way: a whopping 73% of singles in the US say that having a positive relationship with a partner’s children makes them love their partner more.


1 All Salama Marine quotes from an EliteSingles interview on dating as a parent, March 2017
2 Brittany Wong, writing for the Huffington Post, 2014. ‘The 15 biggest misconceptions about single parents’. Found at
3 This and all statistics in this article are taken from the EliteSingles ‘Single Parents Dating survey,’ 2017. Sample size: 580 American singles

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