Five signs you are ready to meet someone new

Couple on a date meeting someone new

Most of us have at some point experienced the painful end of a relationship. Whether you left or have been left, and whether the relationship lasted a long time, or was short-lived, sooner or later you will face the question of whether you are ready to meet someone new.

Do you dare to believe in love again? If you are single and at an age where it seems that everyone else has already found a life partner or are invested 100% into their careers, although exciting, a new relationship can be a daunting prospect. If you would like to meet someone new, here’s our list of signs that you are ready.

1. You have cleared your baggage from your past relationships

Break-ups can be painful. If you are still holding on to resentment for your ex or if you fantasize about them, it can be difficult to move on. Perhaps the most important step to finding love again is to stop dwelling on what has been. Ultimately, you’ll need to accept the fact that although your former partner was a part of your life, for some reason the relationship ended. You are emotionally ready to move on when you don’t constantly compare your new dates to your lost love. Sometimes talking to friends and family can help you get over your ex-partner, but if you are still mourning the end of your relationship when you are searching for a new love, it may be time to seek some professional help.

2. You have thought about your own expectations and shortcomings

It’s easy to idealize what you want in a loving relationship. Perhaps, you have built up expectations that are too high? Anyone who is aware of their own shortcomings finds it easier to accept that others are not perfect either. It is worthwhile analyzing your own expectations for a relationship. When you meet someone new, you should imagine your future relationship as an entity that will be constantly changing, even the happiest of couples go through peaks and troughs.

3. You are happy with yourself

If you find that you’re often trying to change something about yourself thinking it will make you more attractive, then you are lacking in self-esteem and confidence in yourself. Don’t be too hard on yourself, this is very common but it means that you need to work on finding and loving the real you before trying to love someone else.

4. You are ready to be part of a team

Although single life can at times feel lonely and boring, it also provides a freedom that can be difficult to let go of. Single life gives the opportunity to choose your own routine, to be pedantic or cut corners without anyone else commenting on how you choose to live. Of course, we all need to look after our own needs in order to feel good. If you would like to experience the mutual bond of being in a relationship, you will need to feel ready to compromise and think of your partner’s needs too.

5. You dare to believe in love!

For those of you who have been burned by love or even if you have never experienced the strong pull of love, you may feel scared to put yourself out there and meet someone who you may potentially fall in love with. It can be easy to become cynical of the search for a new partner if you are used to meeting people on nights out or at work. Maybe you feel that there are many other singles around you but no one that you can truly click with. EliteSingles was created to match singles with similar relationship expectations and to help them find love. When you become a member, you are presented with selected singles who are compatible with you and your life.

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