The top 10 first date deal breakers
A new EliteSingles study, sourced from anonymous user data from 1300 Americans looked into the ins and outs of first date deal breakers and discovered the top 10 first date faux-pas – take note!
The top 5 first date deal breakers
1) Number 1 Behavior Deal Breaker: Getting very drunk
There is a difference between having a small glass of wine for some Dutch courage before a first date and getting stupidly drunk over dinner. 1 in 2 Americans consider it a deal breaker so keep it together people; getting wrecked on a date is a big no-no.
2) Number 1 Outfit Deal Breaker: T-shirt with offensive/childish slogan
Almost 70% of Americans agreed that offensive or childish slogans on T-shirts are a massive first date faux-par. You might find your t-shirt hilarious but leave it at home on a date; they are unlikely to be impressed and it will probably be at the cost of a second date.
3) Number 1 Conversation Deal Breaker: Mentioning upcoming dates
One would think this is pretty obvious but a large amount of people experience their date speaking about upcoming dates they’ve set up. Naturally hearing about your other dates is hugely off-putting for the person who is currently on a date with you so don’t mention them! You never know, if your date goes well you may not have to go on the other ones.
4) Number 1 Post date Deal Breaker: Bombarding with texts
Of course it’s nice to feel a date went well and sending one text telling the person you enjoyed meeting them is fine, but bombarding them with messages is just silly. In fact 44% of Americans said it was a deal breaker for them so be careful; you don’t want to spoil a good date by being too keen post date.
5) Dating Deal breaker: Checking your phone constantly
It’s not rocket science. Obviously if you’re sat on your phone throughout an entire date, you are not engaging with the person you are with and can come across as disinterested. In fact, men in particular disliked this and 60% consider it a deal breaker. Put the phone away and enjoy the moment; everything else can wait.
5 surprising first date faux-pas
1) Wearing a suit and tie
Americans like nice-but-casual dates – so much so that wearing a suit and tie is deemed as much of a first date fashion faux-pas as turning up in active wear. In fact 83% of Americans would prefer to go for a casual coffee on a first date (no suit and tie necessary!).
2) Taking pictures of your meal
Bad news for fans of the Hefe filter: taking photos of your food is definitely off-putting. In fact it’s considered even worse than common dating deal-breakers like not offering to split the bill! Eat the food, don’t photograph it.
3) Getting out your selfie stick during dinner
It might be wise to forget your camera altogether, as mid-date selfies are also frowned upon. Indeed, hated by men in particular (12% consider this a deal breaker), selfies are an even bigger first date sin than not tipping.
4) Listening carefully to your dates stories
68% of Americans would rather their date spoke too much on first meeting. So those who think you need to be a good listener on a date can take a sigh of relief – chat away!
5) Adding your date on Facebook
You should wait before sending that friend request: 1 in 5 American singles would be put off of a second date with someone who immediately added them on social media, men more so than women.