How to Be Romantic in a Relationship: 7 Tips

Couple being really romantic on a cold day

Figuring out how to be romantic doesn’t come naturally to everybody, so we’ve compiled our top steamy and sentimental advice to help you make your partner swoon. 

One of the best things about finding your soulmate is feeling like you can be your true self around them at all times. 

You stop trying to impress them 24/7 and feel comfortable letting your guard down. Instead of being concerned with what they think about you, you know they love you for who you are. 

Finding this level of intimacy with someone is the dream, but even when you’ve settled into a comfortable, serious relationship, it’s important not to lose sight of romance. 

If you’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’, follow these tips on how to be romantic.

How to Be Romantic With Your Partner

  1. Learn your partner’s love language

Your partner might joke that their love language is dog GIFs or Arrested Development quotes, but that’s not what their love language truly is.

Love languages are a well-known concept that help to explain the different ways to give and receive love. 

There are five love language types: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. 

This quiz, which you can take for free online, helps you better understand how you want to receive love—and how your partner wants to receive love, too.

So why not take the quiz and encourage your partner to do the same? That way you’ll know just how to hit them in the romantic feels.

  1. Plan a real date and go all out

Don’t get us wrong, we love a good date night in, but if you really want to figure out how to be romantic, you need a date night out—and to go all out for it too. 

Your date doesn’t have to be formal, but it’s a nice change of pace to get out of the house, do something different, and enjoy a great night together. 

Pack a picnic and spend an afternoon at the park. Get dressed up and make a reservation at that new restaurant you’ve been wanting to try. Escape to a fancy hotel for a weekend staycation. Do whatever feels special and romantic to you and your partner

Here are more romantic date ideas to inspire you.

  1. Surprise them with a token of your affection

Your partner’s love language doesn’t have to be receiving gifts for them to appreciate a little ‘just because’ gift. 

No need to plan an elaborate grand gesture, a bunch of fresh flowers or their favorite candy bar are great ideas. It’s the thought that counts! 

A token of your affection says, “I was thinking about you, and I wanted to give you something to make you smile and remind you that I love you.”

It’s a thoughtful gesture that will make your partner feel loved and considered.

  1. Put your phone on silent

Part of learning how to be romantic includes changing your relationship with your devices. 

We’re all guilty of getting sucked into the endless scroll. It’s hard to put down your phone, but it’s important to take time to prioritize your relationship over your screen. After all, communication is key to a thriving relationship.

Make an effort not to just set your phone down, but put it down for the whole night, and ask your partner to put theirs to the side also. 

Instead of checking Instagram and Facebook, focus on each other. Actively listen to one another and concentrate on their touch, laugh, voice and nuances. 

Devoting 100% of your attention to your S.O. shows them that you care about them and makes them feel like a priority. 

  1. Write them a love note

There are few gestures simpler, sweeter, and more romantic than a handwritten love note, it’s How to Be Romantic 101. 

You know those little relationship moments where you get butterflies all over again and remember why you fell for your partner in the first place? Let those moments inspire you to write them a love note. 

No one expects you to be Shakespeare, just write down how you feel and leave it on their pillow or by the coffee maker. It’ll make them feel loved beyond words.

  1. Kiss them good morning and goodnight

It sounds like a small thing, and it is, but it can also be very meaningful. 

When you start and end the day with a kiss, you’ll feel a noticeable difference in your emotional connection and closeness. 

It’s a quick moment to pause, block out the world, and express your gratitude for your partner; it’s a reminder of how lucky you are to have each other and be in love. 

Who knows, a romantic morning smooch might just be the fuel you need to take on the world and have a fantastic day.

  1. Love them all year round

Valentine’s Day dates are great, anniversaries are nice, but a big part of knowing how to be romantic is acknowledging that romance happens year-round, not just on a few special occasions. 

If you want to be more romantic, you have to do it more consistently. 

The more you learn how your partner enjoys receiving love, the more romantic and special you can make them feel. 

Soon, you’ll be one of those couples that says, “Every day is Valentine’s Day when I’m with you” —and you’ll mean it!

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