4 Tips for Gay Guys in New Relationships

Two handsome gay guys in a new relationship

It’s always exciting to enter the honeymoon phase of a new relationship. It’s when gay guys revel in physical exploration and see what interests they share. Being in a new relationship can almost feel like a game. There are certain rules, and not all of them will be apparent at first. It can take time to feel comfortable with the vulnerability that comes with loving someone. Here are some tips for gay guys to keep you on a winning streak. 

Gay Guys’ Relationships: 4 Basics

Getting into a new relationship is a heady experience. The physical intensity and passion of the honeymoon phase can sweep you off your feet. That said, it’s vital to lay foundations on solid ground and keep a few ground rules in mind. Here are four of them…

Take Part in Their Interests

In any budding relationship, it’s imperative to uncover your partner’s main interests. It’s important to take note of what he spends his time on. Usually, within a few months, you’ll be able to notice two or three interests your partner’s universe revolves around. 

Some common passions I’ve noticed over the years include being a foodie, working out, traveling extensively, or heading into the great outdoors. I have nothing against someone adopting a vegan diet. But if a guy wants to try all types of food at the weekend, he’d slowly become disappointed if his partner would rather eat at home. 

I’ve always been the type of person to give someone the benefit of the doubt and to try things their way, and you should try it too. However, if frustration or compromise can’t be met, you either budge, adopt your partner’s interest, or jump ship. If two gay guys really like each other, they will eventually figure things out, creating a smooth path rather than a rocky one. 

Define Your Need for Intimacy

Gay guys will almost always value physical intimacy more than the heterosexual narrative. As humans, we’re always evolving and creating bonds with the people we encounter. Be sure to know if your potential partner prefers monogamy or something like an open, polyamorous gay relationship

As a newly gay man, I was extremely embarrassed and timid about discussing my needs or likes in the bedroom. A lot of gay guys like me that had a rather rural and religious upbringing can relate to the experience I’m referencing. As my confidence grew, I became more comfortable voicing things about sex and intimacy. 

Most gay guys these days have a lot of these things plastered on their dating app profiles. In retrospect, I found this very helpful as the hindsight of it all allowed me to not waste my time with a simple swipe. 

Find Your Communication Style

Another attribute that will almost always be attractive to someone is the art of communication. Think about why past relationships may have floundered. My guess is that you can probably identify a few occasions where an ex didn’t communicate his needs clearly. 

Gay guys can be a bit fickle. The guy that didn’t call me back after a fun evening didn’t communicate with me. When things got a little bit more serious with someone and communication faltered, the connection fizzled. 

I know that I’m an over-communicator. I don’t expect my partner to be the same as me, that’s simply unrealistic! However, it’s rude to not text someone back in a reasonable amount of time. No man is too busy to respond to something he deems important. Gay guys can be the worst at this, I know. 

Explore Each Other’s Social Circle 

I’m a huge advocate of getting a peek at someone’s personality through their social interactions and bonds. Gay guys can be more gregarious than a lot of other social groups. It says a lot about the reflection of someone’s character if he surrounds himself with men that inspire him in some way. 

Above all, your new relationship should be fun. It should also be a time to be invigorated by what makes a person interesting and weird, both in terms of their character and the people they care about. I remember once a boyfriend told me that he loved the fact that I was weird. Funny enough, one of his best friends was also a bit weird, and I think that is why we got along so well. 

So, don’t be afraid to communicate what you think is fair and right. A little pragmatism never hurt anyone, and after all, communication is key. My hope is that your new relationship will become an expedited one that makes you truly happy.

About the author: Mason R. Glenn

Mason R. Glenn has had a long career in the matchmaking industry and has spent his time helping high-caliber clientele in Los Angeles select eligible matches. Currently, Mason is an acclaimed published author and is in the process of strengthening his career in content and brand strategy. His latest book, "Getting Ahead of the Gayme: Man First, Gay Second," can be purchased through Amazon, iBooks, or Google Play, and is available at select major book retailers in the U.S.

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