How to Find Love: 5 Trusted Tips

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Have you ever found yourself wondering how to find love?  That deep kind of love. You’ve probably seen it in your own life through your parents, siblings, close friends, and all those strangers who find love on TV. So you know it’s out there. It does exist. But how can you find it? Here’s how…

So what’s the secret to finding love? The truth is, I don’t think there is one. When you’re ready for love, and you want to find it, you will. I think it’s that simple. 

Unfortunately, it doesn’t always happen as instantly as we would like it to. But more often than not, what we think is a first date curse or a string of bad luck, is actually a sign of the former. Not being ready for love, or not actually wanting it in your heart. 

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Stuck on wondering how to find love? It can be tough pondering this, especially if you’re still holding out for that special someone. However, there are things you can do! Here’s how to get yourself ready for the love you’ve been searching for.

Stop looking for love and start discovering yourself

Many of us wrongly believe we need a partner to make us feel happy and content. This is something we’ve got backward. When we feel happy and content and whole on our own, we’ll be ready for a romantic relationship.

So if you’ve always hopped from one relationship to the next, or defined your self-worth by your relationship status, it may be time to be alone for a while. 

When was the last time you checked in with yourself and got to know yourself on an intimate level? Have you given yourself time and space to heal past wounds from previous relationships? Do you even know who you are? Have you given yourself a chance to explore and nurture new parts of yourself?

Learning to be comfortable and independent on your own is one of the greatest steps you can take for yourself and your future relationships

Take care of yourself

Devote the extra time you have now to taking really good care of yourself. Make self-care a priority, and try and do at least one thing each day to make yourself feel looked after and loved.

There are loads of things you can do. Cook yourself nutritious meals, move your body, or journal. Try meditating, socialize, find a new hobby, get to know your local community, have a makeover. There are so many ways we can practice self-care.  

This is beneficial for your health on all levels and will promote a more positive outlook on life. Plus, we tend to attract people who match our own energy. So if your vibe is an inspiring, infectious, full of life one, you’re likely to attract people with similar vibrations.

Live a life that brings you joy

When you choose to live your life on your own terms, it becomes a lot more fulfilling. Sometimes that means disappointing people around you because they have their own ideas of who you should be. But remember, this is your life, so live it for you. 

When you do, you’ll find yourself in jobs and places and with people who are aligned with you and your soul path. And you’re much more likely to find real love here than on a path that was never destined for you.

On top of this, when you live your life for yourself, you become infinitely more attractive to the people around you. This is because you become more authentic and inspiring, simply by daring to do the things you were born to do. This is where natural beauty comes from, and it’s the only kind of beauty that lasts. 

Don’t seek romance, seek partnership

Most of us love a bit of romance. It’s fun, it’s exciting, and it makes us feel wanted. But romance is not strong enough to build a relationship on. What you’re really looking for is a partnership

Look for someone who can offer you this, and wants this too. Someone who is genuinely interested in your opinion, cares about your needs and wants, and wants to create a healthy balance in the relationship. 

Think about what you want and need

If you want to find forever love, it’s important to get clear on what you really want and need in a relationship. 

What kind of lifestyle do you want to live? Are you looking for a long-term commitment, and to get married and have kids? What would be a deal-breaker for you in a good relationship

Many of us are under the illusion that falling in love solves all our problems. Not only is this not true, but a relationship can also bring us a whole new set of problems to navigate. So before you rush into finding love, figure out what you truly want and need. When you can name it, you’ll be able to spot in more clearly when you see it. 

When you’re dating someone new, don’t be afraid to share what you’re looking for. The right person will not be uncomfortable when you do. Instead, they’ll embrace it. After all, it’s about elevating each other to be the best versions of yourselves!

Shani Jay

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