How to Keep a Gay Man Interested: 5 Ways 

Having been a professional matchmaker for many years, I understand what you should prioritize if you’d like to figure out how to keep a gay man interested in you. 

Every day in a relationship should feel like an adventure. This quest will have twists and turns, but as long as you and your partner care for each other, the journey should bring you closer.

Here’s my advice on how to steer you and your man in the right direction. 

My Guide on How to Keep a Gay Man Interested in You

Pay attention to the small stuff

If you’re a gay guy in a new relationship, start taking an interest in your man’s passions. 

Has the guy you’re dating mentioned his favorite band before? If so, why not get tickets for you both to go see them or surprise him with their new album?

Paying attention to his likes and dislikes gives you what you need to plan a great date. Sure, seeing his favorite band might not be your ideal evening, but it might be his. 

Supporting his interests, whether you like them or not, shows him you like him and keeps his eyes from wandering.

Cook for one another 

Studies show that knowing how to cook is one of the most attractive male hobbies there is. 

Maybe it’s the domestic Southerner in me, but my grandmother taught me that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. I’ve dated men who were great in the kitchen and others who weren’t, and there’s just something amazing about a guy who cooks!

Even if I was served a microwavable hot dog and cheap wine, it didn’t matter. What made me smile was the fact that this guy made the effort to prepare a meal for our date.

So if you’re an amateur in the kitchen, brush up on your culinary skills to put your man in a good mood.

Keep surprising each other

Nothing says “I like you” more than when someone surprises you with your favorite meal. 

Don’t wait for a birthday, anniversary, or holiday to surprise your crush. Treat them to surprises all year round. 

I’ve always been a person that thrives when things are shaken up. I often search for this tempo in a relationship. 

Letting your relationship become repetitive might make your partner feel bored. That’s not what you want when you’re figuring out how to keep a gay man interested in you. 

Travel together

One of the major relationship tests that I recommend to my clients is for them to travel together. 

From choosing a vacation location to ordering a taxi home from the airport, a successful couples holiday requires communication, spontaneity, and patience.

Working together in a different environment reveals your compatibility and shows your partner’s true temperament.

Not only does planning a couples holiday give you both something to look forward to, studies show that couples who travel together have better sex too. 

Enjoy being still together

COVID-19 has placed a lot of stress on our relationships, but it’s also taught us to find joy in small things.

However, just because we’re in a pandemic doesn’t mean that we can’t continue dating or keep our love lives interesting, it just means our social calendars have become quieter. 

This free time is the perfect opportunity to make memories with those we care about. Leaving our phones in the other room and being present means we can focus entirely on our connections. 

Being in tune with your partner is easy when your schedule is packed. Being on their wavelength when you’ve both got no plans is trickier. 

Enjoying time together when you’ve got nothing to do is one of the signs of a good relationship. For example, one of my favorite things to do during quarantine has been to drink champagne, listen to some music, and do a puzzle with my partner. 

If you want to figure out how to keep a gay man interested in you, find ways to make the mundane enjoyable. That way your relationship will never become boring. 

Keeping your man on his toes may feel like a challenge, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Instead of stressing about whether or not your gay crush likes you, put yourself out there and have fun!

Following these guidelines will ensure they’re head over heels with you in no time. 

Mason R. Glenn

About the author: Mason R. Glenn

Mason R. Glenn has had a long career in the matchmaking industry and has spent his time helping high-caliber clientele in Los Angeles select eligible matches. Currently, Mason is an acclaimed published author and is in the process of strengthening his career in content and brand strategy. His latest book, "Getting Ahead of the Gayme: Man First, Gay Second," can be purchased through Amazon, iBooks, or Google Play, and is available at select major book retailers in the U.S.

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