How to Tell if a Gay Guy Likes You: 3 Signs

Handsome gay man trying to tell if another gay guy likes him.

Sometimes dating as a gay man needs its own legend like on a map. More accurately, dating as a gay man might seem like a game of cat and mouse. This unsettling process can prompt a range of emotions, including frustration, sadness, and disappointment. Understandably, figuring out how to tell if a gay guy likes you can be tricky. Let’s explore three ways to bring a bit more success to your love life.

Wondering How to Tell if a Gay Guy Likes You? It’s easy as 1, 2, 3!

Yes, it might be hard to suss out a gay guy’s intentions. Fortunately, these three tips will help you cut through the haziness and find out whether he’s got feelings for you. Right then, let’s get started!

He Texts You Back After the First Date 

A lot of professional matchmakers I have worked with over the years are 50/50 about someone texting you right after a good first date. I thoroughly believe in courtesy, respect, and communication. I’m also a very traditional person. Regardless, this person made time for you to hopefully make a good first impression, so I think it’s polite to give a more personal follow up. 

Did you feel mutual chemistry? If someone shot me a simple text after our first date saying he’d like to see me again, I would almost always respond right away. Be sure to schedule your second meeting within a few days to keep the ball rolling. Nothing is worse than building up all this exciting steam for it to completely lose its billowing plume. 

It’s not nice to feel like everything has to start over days later after radio silence. It’s also a great way to send someone a mental cease and desist letter. Make sure you keep the fire burning strong! Don’t be guilty of letting something fizzle because you waited to hear from him first. This will let you know how to tell if a gay guy likes you and is serious about a loving gay relationship

He’s Interested in What You Like

I have been an avid follower of a popular fitness class for over ten years of my life. I remember when I was actively single, it was important that the guy I dated knew that this was an integral part of my life. Making this a priority put me in an affable mood. It was important that my partner either understand the priority or even would try to attempt to enjoy it himself. 

I’ve also been on the other side of this coin. I dated a man for a year who was passionate about heavy metal concerts. He also loved socializing with his friend circle in that scene. I couldn’t care less about it and it was emotionally cumbersome for me to attend concerts with him. Case in point, this seemed to be a contributing factor to why our relationship came to an end. 

My mantra is to always try to participate in the relationship. You don’t have to thrive doing what your partner enjoys. However, at least support him or try it every once in a while knowing that it will please your potential partner in some way. If it doesn’t work out, at least you tried! 

He Wants You to Be His Plus One

From many years of dating, I found that it is really important for me to be able to love my boyfriend’s friends. His inner circle says a lot about his character, lifestyle, and energy. There have been many instances where I didn’t realize I was dating quite the party boy, and that courtship ended rather abruptly. 

There’s also a little more vulnerability involved when you transition from “a guy I’m dating” to an actual person with a name. Are conversations becoming more involved? If so, it’s a great way to tell if a gay guy likes you. 

Something else I learned along the way is remembering his best friend’s names. Doing so only makes him realize that you are listening and making an investment in him that seems more long term. 

There’s power in showing your more exposed emotional colors. This rings true when you’re figuring out how to tell if a gay guy likes you. Gratitude is something that I will always remind people of and showing that to someone you’re dating will have a positive effect. The worst that can happen is that the match isn’t mutual, and you both move on. 

So, whenever you’re in doubt, be proactive and communicate well. Do this and I promise you’ll find someone special soon!

Mason R. Glenn

About the author: Mason R. Glenn

Mason R. Glenn has had a long career in the matchmaking industry and has spent his time helping high-caliber clientele in Los Angeles select eligible matches. Currently, Mason is an acclaimed published author and is in the process of strengthening his career in content and brand strategy. His latest book, "Getting Ahead of the Gayme: Man First, Gay Second," can be purchased through Amazon, iBooks, or Google Play, and is available at select major book retailers in the U.S.

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