6 Amazing Perks of Dating in Your 40s


Dating in your 40s can be a blast. People often imagine a single person in their 40s to be sad, lonely, and bored, but the reality couldn’t be further from the truth.

Once you’ve reached 40 you’ve probably had time to grow, live, and figure out who you are and what you’re looking for. 

These realizations mean dating is less complicated and more fun, making it the perfect decade to find a partner who gets you (or to have fun trying).

Here are some perks of dating in your 40s.

The Advantages of Dating in Your 40s

It can be glamorous

When you were dating in your 30s and 20s, you were probably more focused on finding someone to marry and have children with. Now that you’re a bit older, this might not be a motivating factor anymore. 

Instead, you’re financially stable, successful, and independent. You don’t need someone to take care of you and you’re not looking for someone to look after either. 

This gives you the time and means to go on lavish dates, exciting holidays, and late-night adventures on your own or with your new love. 

There’s no pressure to sit through boring dates or to settle for immature partners who don’t appreciate you. Why? Because you know that you can be happy on your own! You don’t need to rely on someone else to bring you joy.

You know what you want

Reaching 40 means you’ve probably been on your fair share of dates and experienced a handful of different relationships too. 

So before you begin dating at 40, think about your past romances. What kind of partner did you used to go for? What did they teach you? Were there things that you wish you had handled differently in your relationships? 

Our past experiences can teach us a lot of lessons about who we are, what we like, and what we don’t need. Being able to spot red flags with ease can feel empowering and save you heartbreak down the line.

You’re not afraid to be honest

Not only do you know what you want when you’re dating in your 40s, but you’re not afraid to voice it either. 

Interested in someone? Make the first move. Want to kiss at the end of the date? Go for it and lean in. Looking for more than something casual? Say it, unapologetically.

By now you’ve probably experienced rejection countless times and feel less afraid of it. You’re secure enough in yourself to understand that rejection isn’t a personal reflection of you but rather something to do with the other person. 

Sex will be so much better when you’re dating in your 40s

Hopefully, by now, you’re comfortable with your unique shape and sexuality.

When you feel confident in this way, having a healthy sex life becomes simple (and fun). You know what works for you and aren’t embarrassed to communicate that to your partner.  

Allowing yourself to enjoy sex, instead of trying to please your partner, or worrying about what you look like, can be a real gamechanger. 

You’re more secure with who you are

When you were younger, you may have felt peer pressured to make other people happy or to change yourself so that you fit in. This attitude loses its appeal as you get older. 

The more years you’ve been on this planet, the more intimately you’ll get to know yourself. With this experience comes confidence, self-awareness, and wisdom. 

Now that you’re a man dating in your 40, feel empowered by the life that you’ve created for yourself. Don’t focus on the people who aren’t interested in you. 

Adopting this confident attitude won’t just make you feel great, studies show that it’ll make you more attractive too. 

Who knows, maybe you’ll end up with more amazing matches now than you did when you were younger.  

You’ve raised the bar

When you were in your 20s and 30s, you might have settled for less than you deserved from partners because you were scared of being single.

Unfortunately, many 20 somethings behave this way, but the good news is that this probably won’t happen at 40.

By the time you reach your 40s, you’ve probably raised the bar for potential partners. You’ve realized that you don’t want to take anyone’s BS or try to people please. You understand that having standards is healthy and so you don’t feel ashamed for expecting a fair, kind, and attentive partner.

Searching for love in your 40s can be an exciting, enriching, and fulfilling journey. Sure, it might not be 100% straightforward, but the best things in life aren’t! 

What matters is that you lead a life that makes you happy. That’s what dating in your 40s is all about.

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